Love in the In-betweens…

Safe. Tender. Christ-like. Always!

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My partner loves to say that love is in the in-betweens. I’d hear the quiet certainty in his voice, the way his words carried the kind of truth that didn’t need embellishment.

“Babe, love is what happens between one anniversary and the next, between one Valentine’s and the one after, between all the celebrations. Love is in the in-betweens.”

I’ve spent the past week sitting with this thought, letting it settle in my bones. And truly, love is in the in-betweens. Someone can buy you a grand bouquet, book a spa date, or plan a boat ride on your anniversary, but the real weight of a relationship is carried in the everyday moments that lead up to that day.

Do they hold your heart with the same tenderness on a random Tuesday as they do on your birthday?

Do they watch their tone when they’re upset—especially when they’re upset?

Does the daily rhythm of your relationship reflect the love you both declare on special days?

Don’t get me wrong, the special days matter. They should be celebrated. God forbid I have to remind a man why the days that matter, matter. But this isn’t about that.

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This is about refusing to live in a cycle of waiting for special moments to feel loved. Because life itself is a special event. And love—real love—shouldn’t be rationed out in bursts.

Imagine if you insisted on a love that protected you daily, not just occasionally. A love that showed up in the mundane, not just in the grand. A love where tenderness wasn’t something to be scheduled.

Imagine a world where love felt safe, just like the first day you fell into it. A world where even the fights didn’t erase the consideration. A love that didn’t exist just to perform on designated dates, but one that breathed through every ordinary moment in between the milestones.

May this be your gentle reminder: love isn’t just the grand gestures. It’s the quiet, steady presence in the in-betweens.

And my prayer for you this week is this—may you love the people in your life with the same tenderness on an ordinary day as you do on the days marked by cake and confetti. May your love be steady, not seasonal. May it show up in the quiet, in the unnoticed, in the in-betweens. And if you ever find yourself holding onto a love that only performs when the world is watching, may God give you the courage to walk away.

“Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” — 1 John 3:18

Author’s Note:

Things that warmed my heart last week:

• This sermon by Apostle Iren. Needed!

• This review on my just concluded virtual screenwriting crash course. Still makes me teary. Truly when God says, “Move”, He provides capacity.

• This note of mine that has gone viral and literally healing hearts. May God be praised. 🙌🏾

  Happy new month. May March be marked by miracles. 💚

With loads and loads of love,

Odinakachi Nwonu